I have always been suspicious of memory. Growing up as a child of divorce, I learned early how easily an experience can change through the filter of different minds. The facts of the story might remain unchanged, but the meaning and the details get jumbled, lost, or fully reinvented as a person relives them. “Growing …
Time management is not in my DNA. It’s not just being late: Often, it’s having too much time and too many options within a given period. And it’s taking too little time to complete a task. (Yes, it’s exhausting. And yes, the Cheesecake Factory is a dangerous place for people like me.) Admittedly, I’ve had …
Imagine this: I’m a few glasses of wine in, slumped on my couch, alone, under a chunky blanket. “Are you still watching?” is the first question anyone has asked me in 24 hours — but does it really count if the questioner is Netflix? “No matter the weather or time of year, we need community …
Feeling down is a part of life, and try as we might, there isn’t always much we can do when our loved ones are sad or disappointed. But according to a growing body of research, providing words of encouragement can make a tangible difference. According to The New York Times, the best way to effectively offer verbal support is to …
Our editors have tested and researched dozens of vitamins, supplements, and serums to help with postpartum hair loss — these are our favorite picks with clean and safe ingredients. Let’s be transparent: Hair loss—especially a few months after pregnancy—is common. As bodies adjust to new hormone levels and growth cycles, it’s normal to notice hairs falling out …
Are You Sure No One’s Mad At Me? I recently greeted my husband when he came home from work and could instantly tell he was off. When I asked, he said, “I just feel really angry for no reason.” I panicked, assuming that his irritation must have stemmed from something I did. (It didn’t.) I …
The Science Behind Pheromones, Scent, and Sexual Attraction If we stripped away our material possessions, our clothes, and all the things we surround ourselves with, what is left? Evolution tells us that at one point in time, we were connected to the earth and our instincts in order to survive. Pheromones, for instance, are chemicals …
As a psychotherapist in private practice, I know it’s wrong to try to fix or change my friends. But after the pandemic, my friendships were in flux. Many friends left the city where I lived — so when I met someone new, I’d feel excited about the potential. Maybe we’d be hiking buddies and walk …
There is the language of sex, and then there is the language of shame, and for most of my life, these two languages have been intertwined. Throughout my adolescence, sex was synonymous with secrecy, and not the good kind. This was especially true when sex looked like a woman exploring her own body—like me exploring …
I have a tendency to stop everything that I start. Here’s how it goes: I get an idea, I am consumed by the excitement of it. I daydream about it, plan it, and acquire the necessary tools to start. I begin with an eager and hopeful heart. And then I lose interest. Perhaps I reach a …